For the first time, people seem to be really listening to the horrible truth about rape and the American school system, so maybe it’s time for the world to hear a truth that’s been weighing on me for quite some time.
It has recently come to my attention that some folks are having trouble when it comes to learning how not to rape, so I thought I would put together a little 101 for you in the interest of public service.
When you've finished reading this you'll know why I didn't report him. It was the wrong sort of rape and no one would have believed me. I didn't ever tell anyone because I didn't want to be a 'victim' or, even worse, a 'survivor'. I hate that term, like half an hour of your life indelibly marks you forever.
This is a man who describes the best punch he ever threw as the one that hit his ex-wife, Robin Givens. This is not a nice man. He is not an ally of women or victims. He is the opposite, he is a perpetrator, and not one who feels much remorse by the sounds of it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about why I am so besotted with a programme that centres on the abuse of women. It extends beyond morbid curiosity, because the world in which SVU detectives operate is so alien – it is a world where people actually give a fuck about women getting sexually assaulted.