It’s still difficult for me to adjust to having male attention that isn’t rife with sexual undercurrents. It’s making me realize how I’ve become accustomed over the years to using my sexuality as bait for male attention.
ihtm
money
This working out our finances thing is a process.
facebook status
We already live in a world where women are taught to shy away from being viewed as openly complicated, flawed or messy in any way. Spending your days pretending to be an idealized self doesn’t help things.
virginity
Am I crazy? Repressed? Am I brainwashed with legalistic doctrine that I was force fed my whole life? Actually, no.
money
I'm only having nightmares pretty much every night and stockpiling ramen like I'm planning for the apocalypse. That's all.
marriage
Single people, but especially women, are expected to be in a constant state of partner-search, with all other forms of personal fulfillment considered second best to finding a lifelong mate.
therapy
Ladies, there is no Knight in Shining Armor.
music
Hearing it barely even qualifies as bittersweet for me. It just feels like any other favorite song.
wedding
I’m not going to say how much my wedding cost because that’s not classy or whatever, but I will say this: It was half what ever your wedding cost, and this is how I did it.
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Apr 18, 2013 at 7:00pm | 1 comments
best friends
Ending a tight friendship as an adult is similar to ending a romantic relationship in that it’s a major life change.
sailboats
This is the one people ALWAYS ask about: Where do you poop?
marriage
I’m sure part of this is just a knee-jerk reaction from growing up in a big Mormon family in Utah as a tiny queer feminist and feeling out of place most of the time.
cohabitation
It had been 23 years since I last lived in a place without another person not blood-related to me also living there
snooki
Snooki tells us what post-baby sex is like, why she plans to keep baby Lorenzo off TV, how building her dream house dictates when she'll finally tie the knot, the unexpected celebrity she just got wasted with in New York and whether or not she has any regrets.
ihtm contest
In less than two months, he had gone from trying to have a baby with me, his partner of eight years, to actually having a baby with someone he’d been dating for two weeks.
rings
We’d already discussed the engagement ring issue and I’d made it clear there was absolutely no way I was going to make myself suffer a metal noose on my finger for all eternity. No big deal, right?
marriage
When my boyfriend met up with me during a summer of grad school research in South Africa, everyone told me he would propose. I really should’ve known better.
engagement
Like the first time you smoke pot and assume everyone knows, I twisted my diamond into the palm of my hand, certain that if I didn’t I may as well have a neon sign flashing above my head: Engaged And Terrified.
money
I make twice what Ed does. Does that make me the dude in this relationship?
marriage
I realized that my anxiety was not the result of a bad relationship. Mostly, it was there because I have been neurotic and change-averse my entire life, and -- surprise! -- nothing about my brain chemistry changed after my boyfriend proposed to me.
healthy
Another fantastic IHTM from the xoJane.com archive - enjoy this beautifully written, uplifting story
marriage
I still struggle with feeling kind of lame now that I'm a WIFE.
